A Traditional Liberian Feminine Hygiene Routine, Confidence, and Body Love
Introduction: Let’s Talk About It, Sis
Let’s Get Real, Sis. It Might Not Be Him. It Might Be Your VJJ, your coochie, your vagina, whatever name you would like we call it. I know you don’t want to hear this. It’s not the kind of news anyone wants to hear ever, but you are my sister, and sisters tell each other the truth.
Have you ever been ghosted after sex? Or you’ve been with someone for months, even years, and that man still won’t go down on you? Sis. Let’s unpack this with our edges intact.
Let’s start with the long-term boo. You’ve been together forever. He knows your favorite food, your Netflix password, and probably even your Social Security number. No girl, that man should never know your Social Security no matter how much love you think you have. Things are happening, but let’s get to the point.
This man refuses to go down on you like you’ve got a lock and chain situation going on down there. And you and I know that he’s not new to the buffet line. You’ve seen how he has talked about it before. Maybe you even caught a glimpse of his browser history once (we’re not judging). So what’s the problem? Why won’t he just give you that satisfaction you crave? You love him and the sex is great, but it’s missing that one juicy part of the body with 8000 nerves.
The excuses pile up: “I’m not in the mood.” “I’m tired.” “I’d rather just focus on you.” But that’s my definition of focusing on me.
Translation? “I’m not doing it with you.”
Then there’s the one-time guy, the utmost unicorn. He’s giving the “I’m serious about you” energy. Soft touches, long talks, asking about your five-year plan. Then you finally get intimate, and Poof, he’s gone like a tax return in July. He didn’t give an explanation. All he has given you are vibes and confusion. He left sitting there thinking, “Men ain’t—” You know the rest.
But here’s the truth we don’t say out loud: Sometimes it’s not because he’s a player. Sometimes it’s not because he got what he wanted and now he’s not interested in you anymore. Should I say what I think? Or should I keep my opinions to myself? Well… You will hear it anyway. Sometimes, it’s because you presented your vagina like a half-cooked, unseasoned meat.
Let’s Be Clear. There is no such thing as “I was busy, so I didn’t wash” sex. Or… “But I took a shower yesterday.” If you haven’t rinsed inside your vagina with water and your fingers, a key step in this particular Liberia feminine hygiene routine, not just the vulva, but gently inside the vagina, then you shouldn’t be putting that vagina on the menu. Period. You wouldn’t serve someone raw chicken and call it dinner, would you? Then don’t serve an unwashed vagina and call it sex.
Whether the smell, a common concern related to vaginal odor causes, is from a long, sweaty day or from bacteria quietly building up due to poor hygiene, it’s still off-putting. Unless you and your partner have a full-blown “we like it funky” kink, and hey, if that’s your lane, do you. I won’t judge you, but if it’s not, then know that scent matters. People talk about intimacy like it’s all about trust and energy, but let’s be truthful to ourselves, scent plays a major role in desire. That “get closer” moment turns into a “pull back” moment real quick when there is an odor. Men might not always say it out loud. Many of them are polite, others are cowards, but trust me, they notice. They just don’t want to embarrass you. Your body doesn’t get a pass just because you don’t know what is the best way to clean your vagina or you’re assuming you’re “clean” down there without any proof of it. Have you inserted your finger inside yourself and smelled it before you gave it to that man? Intimacy is not a place for shortcuts. You wouldn’t show up to a job interview smelling like three-day-old gym clothes. So why show up to your partner, or a potential one, smelling like you didn’t respect your own body first?
Deep down, You Know: You feel more confident when you know you’re clean. Sex feels better when you’re not in your head wondering, “Do I smell that?” Your partner is more relaxed when the room smells like skin and love, not one day old rotten fish, a scenario that often leads women to search for how to get rid of vaginal odor.
This isn’t about shame. It’s about respect. For your body. For your partner. For the experience you both deserve to have. Stop being careless with your hygiene and calling it empowerment. Real confidence is in the details. It’s in how you care for your vagina like it’s your crown jewel, because it is; this includes understanding daily feminine hygiene practices that go beyond the surface. So if he ghosted after sex, if he avoids going down, if things feel off, pause the self-blame and the “men are trash” playlist and check your body first. Only after you know that you are the problem before should you call me for us to bat that man together. But let me be clear. Not all men are bad. You have just met the bad ones. There are great ones out there, and once you fix yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically, by adopting thorough feminine hygiene practices, you will attract better men who will change the way you think. And if no one taught you how to wash? Don’t worry. That lesson is coming next.
Now let’s talk about a different kind of heartbreak. Let’s say the first guy was a vibe killer mid-session, and yes, that shook you. But this one? This one is worse because you actually liked him. You saw something real.
Imagine This… You meet a guy who’s not just a looker, he’s intentional, he plans dates, asks questions, and sends “Good morning, beautiful” texts that don’t feel recycled from Google. The kind of man who makes you think, “Ohhh… maybe this could go somewhere.” Weeks go by. The chemistry is real. You both finally decided to take it there. Clothes come off. There’s laughter, soft music, kisses in all the right places. He starts heading south, and your heart is thumping, but just like the last scene… he stops. He tries to act like he’s still into it. He may switch things up, or go for your breasts, start kissing your neck, trying to recover the mood. But it’s gone. The rhythm dies right there. You ask him if something’s wrong, and he says, “Nah, I’m just tired” or “Let’s take it slow.” But you feel it. You know it. You’re lying there trying to process what just happened. A week later, he ghosts. Disappears. Just gone.
Now your brain does what all our brains do: “He’s just like the rest.” “Men only want one thing.” “Once they get the cookie, they bounce.”
But sis, let’s pause that storyline real quick. What if it wasn’t about sex? What if it was all about scent?
Let’s Get Scientific (But Still Real) Your vagina has natural secretions. That’s normal. But normal doesn’t always mean pleasant, especially if you’re unsure of how to maintain good feminine hygiene. During arousal, glands inside and outside your vaginal canal begin to secrete moisture to prepare your body for penetration. That fluid mixes with the existing bacteria, sweat, discharge, and residue left from your day, including old urine, leftover period blood (if you’re post-cycle. Know that good period hygiene tips address this too), and yes, even the last guy’s fluids if you didn’t put your finger inside and cleaned properly after your last round. Now here’s the thing, when you haven’t cleaned inside your vagina with water and fingers, those natural secretions reactivate everything you left sitting in there.
All of it. The fresh, the stale, the sticky. And it releases a strong, sour, sometimes fishy smell down there or a metallic smell, and girl, no amount of lavender-scented wipes will mask that once you’re aroused. So now, this man who was into you, who wanted to build something, got hit with a wave of scent he didn’t expect. He didn’t say anything because he didn’t want to embarrass you. And now? He’s gone. It wasn’t because you weren’t pretty enough. It wasn’t because you weren’t good in bed. It was your vagina odor. And no one told you how to get rid of vaginal odor the right and permanent way.
The Vagina Does Not Clean Itself Well Enough To Keep You Clean. (Let’s Be Loud About That)
Let’s go ahead and set this straight. The idea that the vagina “cleans itself” has been completely misunderstood; many feminine hygiene myths contribute to this confusion. Yes, the vagina will leak out things you didn’t clean into your panties. And when I say things, I mean sweat, secretions, semen, soap residue, should I go on? If you think cleaning means walking around with droplets of body fluids all day while you are wearing a Chanel, and other name brands’ perfume, and assuming you are clean, then you need to redefine what clean is. Your gynecologist may have preached for ages that the only way to wash your vagina is to wash the vulva only but know that secretions can actually build up inside if you don’t clean gently but thoroughly. It’s like leaving soup in a pot overnight and just rinsing the top the next morning. The smell from the pot tells.
The Real Talk Nobody Gave You: If you’re sexually active, even semi-active, you need to develop a consistent inside-and-out wash routine as part of your feminine hygiene routine. Not aggressive. Not invasive. Just honest, intentional cleansing. Because this is bigger than just not smelling funky. It’s about your confidence. It’s about your intimacy. It’s about how connected you feel in the bedroom, not distracted, not second-guessing yourself, but fully present, without worrying, “why do I have a fishy smell down there?” It’s about giving your partner a decent and hygienic environment to play in.
Your vagina is powerful. And power needs maintenance.
Picture What Happens When You Don’t Clean Inside.
We already pictured the sweat, the discharge, and the chaos that can happen when you ignore the insides of your vagina but let’s take it a step deeper. Literally. Because the truth is, while the vagina has a natural cleaning mechanism to push leftover body fluid out into your panties and thighs, that system relies on your support to clean after yourself. Don’t you wash the bottle of milk before you pour a new one into it? So let’s get real. Imagine this: you just finished your period, you wiped, wore your pads, changed regularly, but you never did the finger sweep. Days pass. That old blood? It didn’t fully exit. It dried up and clung to your vaginal walls like a bad ex that won’t leave. It starts to mix with new secretions, creating a sticky residue that your body tries to flush out, but can’t always handle alone. So what happens? You get a brownish discharge days later. And sometimes, a “what is that?” moment when you go to use the bathroom. It’s not your body betraying you. It’s your body waving a flag, saying, “Hey, help me out here.” And that’s not just period blood. After unprotected sex, semen can linger. Some will drip out, but some stay stuck to the walls inside, especially if you’re lying down for long afterward. Your body tries to flush it out with more secretions, and you’ll often notice thick, cloudy, or sour-smelling discharge the next day. This isn’t just “natural”. It is a buildup that a proper feminine hygiene routine aims to address. And then there’s the regular daily discharge, a healthy mix of cervical mucus and dead cells. When your hygiene is consistent, it flows easily and stays balanced, and understanding what a normal amount of discharge is part of this. But if you’re skipping care? It gets trapped. It turns clumpy. Sticky. Discolored. You might start wiping and see beige or yellow streaks, wondering where they came from.
That’s where the Liberian Squat and clean method comes in. It’s not a deep clean. It’s not about poking or prodding. It’s a gentle aid, a nudge to help your body release what’s already ready to go. You’re not scrubbing your insides (please don’t). You’re guiding out what’s overstayed. Let’s stop pretending this is taboo. Let’s stop acting like all vaginas are self-regulating fountains of roses and lavender. The vagina is a mucous membrane. Meaning it secretes fluids to keep itself healthy. But like any system, it benefits from maintenance. So when you skip that inner care? You’re not just letting nature do its job, you’re letting nature struggle to do its job.
Here’s the truth: Old discharge smells. Trapped semen causes irritation. Dried blood takes a while to completely disappear. And you shouldn’t have to deal with daily discomfort, or even concerns that might mimic early yeast infection symptoms women report, when a few minutes in the shower can change the game.
The Squat and Clean Method: A Step-by-Step Liberian Feminine Hygiene Routine Guide
Let’s stop lying to ourselves. Standing in the shower and letting water pass by your vagina is not enough. You must shower twice a day and clean inside your vagina with each shower; these are crucial vaginal hygiene tips. Don’t assume that because you showered in the morning, you’re still good by 7 PM. You’re not. Don’t assume that because you’re about to be intimate, your partner won’t smell anything. They will. And don’t assume that discharge, sweat, or old fluids don’t build up during the day. They do. So what do you do? You squat and clean like generations of women in Liberia have been doing. Let’s walk through how to clean your vagina properly with this method.
- Start with Plain Water: No soap. No fancy feminine wash. No foaming distractions. This approach helps maintain vaginal pH balance naturally. Just clean, plain water, either from a bucket, a showerhead, or a tap. You don’t need chemicals to feel clean. Your body just needs water, love, and care. That’s it.
- Squat Comfortably: This is a hygiene routine, not a balancing act. Squat low and comfortably, feet flat, knees bent. This gives you full access to your vagina no awkward stretches, no guessing, no excuses.
- Gently Spread and Clean: Using clean fingers, gently open the vaginal lips. Insert one finger slightly into your vaginal opening. Let the clean water run through your hand and into your vagina as you move your finger in slow, circular motions as part of this daily feminine hygiene practice. This helps loosen and remove old discharge, dried-up fluids, or whatever the day has dumped in there. You might feel a slimy or muddy texture at first. That’s a buildup. That’s what we’re washing out. That’s why we don’t skip this.
- Rinse Thoroughly: Keep letting the water flow while you gently move your finger until that slimy or muddy feeling disappears. You’ll feel your vaginal walls become firmer and tighter, and you will feel your walls, rough, and you’ll know that you are clean.
- Pat Dry: Gently pat the area dry. Do not rub your vagina. It deserves gentle treatment. Leaving it wet invites yeast infections. And yeast? It loves moisture. Don’t feed it.
When to Use This Method:
- Every Morning: Start fresh. Get rid of overnight discharge and sweat. Begin your day with a clean vagina and clear conscience.
- Every Evening: End the day right. Don’t go to bed with a dirty vagina. That’s how irritation, odors, and even some common vaginal infections might show up uninvited.
- Right Before Sex: A quick rinse isn’t extra. It’s respectful. Respect your partner, but most importantly, respect yourself. Nobody wants to peel off underwear and be met with old sweat and 2 p.m. discharge. These are some of the most practical vaginal hygiene tips for intimacy.
You can do that quickly in the shower or while sitting on the toilet. Freshen up and show up as your best, cleanest self. You wouldn’t serve food on a dirty plate. So don’t offer your vagina unwashed. This is about more than hygiene. It’s about dignity, pride, and intentional womanhood. This journey isn’t just about keeping your panties clean or avoiding embarrassment during sex. This is deep, soul-level healing. Healing the parts of you that were told your body was “too much.” Healing the confusion that came from silence. Healing the fear that crept in every time you didn’t feel “fresh enough,” or found yourself searching “why does my vagina itch?” or “is it normal to have vaginal odor.” It’s reclaiming your time. Your voice. Your confidence. By choosing to care for your body with love and ancestral wisdom, you are saying, I deserve peace. I deserve softness. I deserve to feel whole in my skin. Let this be the season where you stop hiding and start honoring. Where you stop guessing and start knowing. Where do you stop rushing through life and start taking sacred, small moments to care? Warm water. Gentle fingers. Pat-dry softness. And the knowledge that you are not alone in this, that you are part of a lineage of women who knew exactly what they were doing. And now, you do too.
Conclusion: You Got This, Sis.
So here we are. You started reading this maybe out of curiosity, maybe out of frustration, maybe because something didn’t feel quite right. But I hope what you walk away with is this: Your body is powerful. It is wise. It is enough. The Liberian feminine routine isn’t a miracle cure. It’s not a trend. It’s a return. A return to simplicity. A return to ancestral wisdom. A return to your body as a place of peace, not panic when common questions about feminine hygiene arise. You don’t have to do everything. You just have to do what works. And this… this right here works. So go ahead. Fill that bucket or get your shower head and get down. Wash with intention. Pat dry with care. And when you’re done? Look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Because you just gave yourself something priceless—confidence that starts from within, ensuring you feel good about your personal feminine hygiene. You got this, sis. You always did.
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