Why Marriage Is a Real-Life Slow-Burn Romance

You know those slow-burn romances in books where the tension builds for chapters, the longing glances stretch across pages, and the characters finally kiss under the perfect sunset? Well, marriage is exactly like that—except instead of stolen glances, it’s stolen covers in the middle of the night, and instead of dramatic love confessions, it’s shouting, “Babe, come and get your children!” across the house.

Before we dive into this hilarious (and sometimes painfully real) journey of slow-burn romance, let’s ask a few questions:

Have you ever fallen in love with your spouse all over again while watching them help you wash the dishes because you’re so tired and just need a break?

Do you ever feel an odd sense of victory after surviving a toddler tantrum together—without losing your minds?

Have you ever smiled at your partner in a moment of pure love right before handing them the baby they offered to look after? You just want to run for a long shower because you just need to catch a breath?

If you answered yes to any of these, congratulations! You, my friend, are in the middle of a real-life slow-burn romance.

Romance Novels vs. Real-Life Marriage

In books —well, my five romantic women’s fiction novels I wrote and published before my life became crazy with marriage and motherhood, the slow burn is full of sizzling tension, witty banter, and that one perfect moment where everything clicks. The characters kiss and a wide grin plasters your face as you watch them share a deep emotional scene that leaves the “awww” out of your mouth. 

Meanwhile, in marriage, the slow burn looks more like this:

After the wedding: “I love you so much, babe. I can’t wait to spend forever with you.”

After Kids: “Please stop at the store and get diapers and wipes. We are out.”

 or “Make it quick before the kids come. And do you think the kids will sleep through the night again? I can’t go one more night without proper sleep.”

Let’s be real—nobody can sustain a rom-com level of passion every single day. Who has the energy for candlelit dinners when you’re both running on four hours of sleep? But that’s the beauty of marriage. It shifts from grand, cinematic moments to something deeper, funnier, and surprisingly sweeter: a romance built on the little things you never saw coming.

Little Moments, Big Feels

Romance in marriage isn’t about perfectly timed kisses or rose-petal-strewn bedrooms (though, hey, if you can swing that, good for you!). It’s about:

The way they automatically take the kids for breakfast and get them dressed for school without asking because you slept late.

Having a stupid fight one minute but talking about it later because forever is a long time to not make personal changes and be happy.

Being intentional about your kids to the extent that you guide your actions because you understand that children learn by watching you and how and who they become rests on what they learn from you.

Letting your partner understand that they can’t watch the show you both started without you.

These moments don’t come with background music or dramatic lighting. They’re quiet, unfiltered, and ridiculously real—and that’s what makes them so beautiful.

From Sparks to a Steady Flame

Slow-burn romances in fiction are all about the build-up—the lingering glances, the almost-kisses, the will-they-won’t-they tension. But in real life, it’s not just about getting to the big moment. It’s about keeping the fire going, even when life throws curveballs at you.

Real-life romance looks like:

Tag-teaming the kids’ bedtime routine so neither of you loses your sanity.

Doing the dishes without being asked, just because you know they’re tired.

Rubbing his shoulders while he’s driving because you know how it calms his mind and make him remember how much you love him. 

And the best part? That steady flame? It lasts. It keeps you warm when things get tough, it lights the way when life gets chaotic, and it reminds you that love isn’t about a moment—it’s about a lifetime of choosing each other, over and over again.

Your Love Story is Still Being Written

The best thing about a slow-burn romance? It never really ends. Your marriage isn’t finished after the wedding. You keep discovering new things about each other, growing together, and creating new inside jokes that only make sense to the two of you.

So, married folks—what’s been your slow-burn romance moment? Is it the way they look at you when you’re all dressed up for a night out? Or is it the way they still love you when you’re in sweats, hair a mess, and surviving on coffee fumes?

Single friends—what do you think marriage will be like? A whirlwind of passion? A quiet, steady flame? (Spoiler: It’s both, but mostly the second one.)

Drop a comment below and let’s chat! Whether you’re team “we still hold hands everywhere” or team “we only hold hands to keep from strangling each other,” your love story is valid, hilarious, and absolutely worth celebrating.

Now that we’ve had a good laugh about marriage being a slow-burning, unpredictable rollercoaster, let me put you onto something else that’s just as real, raw, and necessary—my books.

First Up: Let’s Talk About Feminine Hygiene, Sis!

If you think marriage is a journey, let’s talk about something even more misunderstood—feminine hygiene. You’ve heard all the myths, the bad advice, and the nonsense, but I’m here to set the record straight with Girl, Wash Your VJJ!

And that’s exactly why I wrote Girl, Wash Your VJJ!—to tell you what your mama, your doctor, and the internet aren’t telling you about keeping things fresh, healthy, and CLEAN.

This book is not another boring lecture about hygiene. It’s a laugh-out-loud, raw, no-nonsense guide packed with everything you need to know about vaginal care, especially from a Liberian perspective (because trust me, our grandmothers knew what they were doing!).

Why You Need This Book in Your Life ASAP

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Don’t Just Read About It—Experience the Difference!

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Now, Let’s Get Into Some Juicy Fiction…

If you love a good, dramatic, stay-up-all-night read, my books will have you HOOKED.

🔥 The Thou Shalt Series

 Thou Shalt Love (Book 1) – A raw, unfiltered story of love, addiction, and sisterhood. If you love messy, real-life drama, this one’s for you.

  Thou Shalt Trust (Book 2) & Thou Shalt Forgive (Book 3) – The rollercoaster continues as relationships, betrayals, and redemption collide in this powerful women’s fiction trilogy.

💋 McSexy – A twisted love story set in Ghana, featuring a strong-willed lecturer and a cocky businessman caught in a daring game of passion and pride. If you love romance with edge and attitude, this one’s a must-read.

👵 Who Is Ma Kemah? – An unforgettable story about a bold, fierce African matriarch who carries her village on her back. A heartwarming, witty, and deeply moving tale of love, legacy, and laughter.

And if you love reading as much as I do, you’ll want to check out my Amazon shop, filled with must-have bookish accessories, cozy reading essentials, and everything to make your reading time even better.

So before you go, do yourself a favor: click my ShinePages link, grab your FREE chapters of Girl, Wash Your VJJ!, and dive into some unforgettable reads. Because whether it’s marriage or hygiene or a good book, some things are just too important to get wrong!

Marriage isn’t always perfect. It’s a mess, a masterpiece, and a never-ending slow-burn romance all at once. And if you’re living it, you’re already writing one hell of a love story.

Now go grab your partner, share a laugh, and maybe binge-watch something ridiculous together. You’ve earned it! 💕

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